Consideration isn't about making uncommunicated decisions
If there's a difficult lesson I've learned and observed as an adult: "consideration" has become an excuse to deprive others to make informed decisions about their feelings.
Consideration isn't about remaining silent to protect someone's feelings, so you can hold over a decision you made without communicating just to say "I did this for you". That is self-sacrificing, not consideration.
Consideration is the ability to have difficult conversations. To say the awkward and potentially even "unneeded" things to encourage clarity. To say the thing that can break the "mood" or "atmosphere" of a relationship. To fumble with timing just a little bit. Consideration, surprisingly, is to allow the space for decisions and agency to come together in a civil discussion.
I've personally found myself unsure about timing particular conversations. But there isn't really a "good time", unless if you're in the height of your feelings. So the closest thing to a "good time" is knowing when you are distanced enough from the feelings to speak about it, but not let feelings be the thing to govern the direction of the discussion.
Yeah, it's difficult, uncomfortable, and potentially even nerve-wracking, especially when you realise the conversation itself can still trigger the same warning signs to the feelings. That's why it's the closest to a "good time", not the "great time".
But who are we, except for humans just learning how to get along? Who are we, unless we even try?
Discomfort isn't the end of the world, and neither is discussing the difficult things. The earlier we allow ourselves to sit with the discomfort and share it in consideration with the people around us, the faster we can overcome and test our trauma responses to form fulfilling relationships.